Do you feel like steel bars are imbedded in those shoulders of yours? Why do you insist on carrying the weight of the whole world on your shoulders?! Many of us are in the same boat, holding tightness, tension and discomfort. How awesome would it be to have someone massage all that stress away? Since everyone else is busy, maybe you could stop and offer this bit of self-care to yourself. A few focused minutes here and there of conscious massage is a wonderful thing. Try it!
Cross one arm over your chest, place it on your opposite shoulder and rub away for an entire minute. Make some noises: moan, grunt, and let the ‘oohs’ and ‘aahs’ out…you know you want to. Breathe in deep, rich breaths and exhale your newfound relief. Now switch sides and take another minute, a full sixty seconds. Two whole minutes just for you…precious self-care time. After these two blissful minutes, notice how much lighter your load is. The benefits of these quick massages are cumulative. A quick massage today, another tomorrow and before you know it, those shoulders will feel more and more tended to. As you re-enter your day, try to keep your shoulders down and a bit more relaxed. Remember, you don’t have to carry it all!
~One key to knowing joy is being easily pleased. Author Unknown~
Last night, singing with my local choir was a deep exhale of trauma and stress…it was pure heaven. The two facilitators guided a gaggle of folks who love to sing…no papers, no reading music…instead encouragement to feel the music in your body, open up your instrument, and a focus on self-awareness. What’s not to love?
As I sang and made eye contact with other women (and the few awesome men, but it is overwhelming populated with women) my heart was overflowing with joy like I experience hanging with my grandchildren.
All our voices are necessary and they matter.
Singing engages The Penetrating Flow, one of the body’s Radiant Circuits. The Radiant Circuits are one of the body’s nine energy systems. You know when a Radiant Circuit is activated within you because you feel joy…like watching a sunset, seeing a baby, touching your heart cuz something makes you want to sing out with joy! But the radiant circuits are struggling cuz they get squashed down by stress…we need to continually dump our crap cuz it is hurting us to stay stressed out. And we can intentionally activate the Radiant Circuits.
The Penetrating Flow starts down there where you think it would start, at your perineum, and travels up our trunk ending at the roof of our mouth. As we pull up on the pelvic floor, engaging those muscles, we activate the Penetrating Flow. It’s as though our torso is a giant pail with the bottom of it being the pelvic floor. Pulling up those muscles (kegels) strengthens the Penetrating Flow, allowing the universal energies to come through us. Singing pulls up the Penetrating Flow and engages it fully, sending that energy up to the cosmos!
A simplistic explanation of why singing (and laughing) activates the Penetrating Flow…put your car music on loud and sing away!
How often have you said something to your child that you wish you could take back? Though hard to admit, it has happened to every single mother on the planet. Many of us have a habit of speaking before we think and then later regretting words that we can’t take back. Most likely, you’ve experienced this in your own life with your partner, your family and your friends.
Your words have the power to hurt or to heal. With intention, you can learn to pause, collect your thoughts and communicate in a kind, calm and deliberate manner. While you’re contemplating more effective ways to communicate with others, why not use kind and deliberate thoughts towards yourself?
TODAY instead of saying what you don’t want your child to do, experiment by saying what you do want him to do. For example, instead of telling your child not to run inside, instead ask him to please walk. Instead of saying, “don’t pull the dog’s tail,” try saying “please touch the dog gently.” While you could declare “don’t throw your food on the floor,” instead try “please keep your food on the table.”
This type of deliberate, positive communication elicits cooperation from your child. It also feels really good to deliberately focus on what is possible!
It has been said that guilt is not being in the present moment because of something that happened in the past and that worry is not being in the present moment because of something that may or may not happen in the future. Right now is the only gift of time that you have…maybe that’s why they call it the present. So many of us spend useless time regurgitating past events over and over and over again. We regret something that we did or something that we didn’t do. We feel bad about something that we said or something that we wished we had said.
Living with these past memories are harmful to you. Don’t spend your precious life currency on something that has happened already. If you need to make amends to someone, be courageous and do what you need to do. It’s simple but not easy yet courage is a value worth cultivating. Decide to have closure with your past. It’s over and done with. Give up hope for a better past. Teach yourself to be in the present moment, right here, right now. It’s truly all you have.
Guided Imagery Imagine, sense and perceive in a way that is perfect for you…You are sitting in a motor boat that is zooming along in the ocean. Even though the waves are rising and falling, you feel strong and stable. The wind is blowing your hair and you are appreciating the movement forward.
You look behind you and see the wake of the water that your boat leaves behind it as it travels forward. You realize that the past is just the wake that is behind you. Your past doesn’t drive the boat, you do. You are always supported in this vessel you are traveling in. All you have to do is put your hands on the steering wheel. You smile as you remember all the times you feared the past was what was propelling you forward.
As the ship nears the shore, you understand and trust that you are moving towards a new vision and experience of yourself. The boat slows and finally docks. As you step onto the shore, you inhale deeply and breathe in trust for the next leg of your journey.
~Every experience is fertile ground for transformation and awakening. Alan Cohen~
Just the sound of the word demand can make you shiver; outer demands, inner demands, other demands, self-demands! Whew! Your days are full; running from breakfast to lunch to dinner with numerous snacks in between. Three loads of laundry are folded on the couch; then your child’s messy bathtub play magically creates more laundry.
The phone rings, your friend needs your help and the cat spit up on the floor. The baby’s nose is stuffy. Your tea is cold. And so it goes day after day. The fluidity and fast pace of a mother’s day is legend.
TODAY take a moment and feel a bubble of energy around you, like a beautiful glowing ball of light. Imagine this protective sphere is pulsing with clear oxygen. Like the movement of air produced by fan, this oxygen is effortlessly circulating all around you.
Now imagine that you are flowing like the stream of air, fluidly and easily. As you bask in the luminous light and free-flowing air, visualize that an invisible power moves with you, helping you travel through your day with a sense of magical grace and ease.
When you hear someone sneeze, your automatic response is to say ”bless you.” Looking into the dictionary, I’ve learned the power of our unique practice.
Definition of Blessing: Something promoting or contributing to happiness, and the act of invoking divine protection or aid.
I like the idea that when I say ”Bless you” I am invoking some really good energy that is going to support someone in the journey of their day. In her inspiring book, The Dance, Oriah Mountain Dreamer tells of leading a meditation during a writing retreat. She asked each person to sit in silence and write the truest statement possible about themselves. After a minute or so, she picked up her pen to write her own statement: I am blessed. She knew immediately that this was the truest truth she could find. I think, deep down, we can all come to realize this truth about ourselves. We are all blessed.
Could saying ”bless you” become a profound practice that could strengthen both you, me, and the world? Such a simple thing is worth a try.
Every time you hear anyone sneeze, declare out loud, “Bless you!” When you yourself sneeze, take a deep breath, place your hands over your heart and say “Bless you.” These two simple words, backed with purpose and intention, can contribute to happiness, and welcome divine protection into your life and the lives of others. Bless you. Bless me. Bless us all.
~If we perceived Life with reverence and understood our evolutionary process, we would stand in awe at the experience of physical life and walk the Earth in a very deep sense of gratitude. Gary Zukov~
Your body appreciates the energy of tapping because the beating of your heart feels, in essence, like a sort of tapping.
When you tap certain places with your fingers, your energy is impacted in a positive way because strong impulses are being sent to your brain.
These Four Thumps work in tandem to nurture and strengthen your energy systems, move your energies forward and re-charge your battery.
Let’s do the Four Thumps:
Cheekbone Thump: While you breathe deeply, with the pads of your fingers, tap on both cheekbones beneath both eyes for 10 to 15 seconds.
K-27 Thump: To locate these important points, place your fingers on the valley at the bottom of your throat where a man would tie his tie. Go down about an inch and out about an inch and tap in those soft spots under your collarbone for 10 to 15 seconds.
Thymus Thump: Tap with your fingers in the center of your sternum, right on the thymus gland for 10-15 seconds. Children love to bang their chest like a gorilla, complete with sound effects!
Spleen Thump: Beneath the breasts and down one rib are the spleen neuro-lymphatic points. Tap them firmly for 10 to 15 seconds.
Tap with firmness and notice if any places are tender. Those sensitive places need some nurturing TLC and will benefit greatly from your tapping touch.
How did that feel?
~If you lose your mind, you will come to your senses. Fritz Perls~
The eyes are sometimes referred to as the “gateways to the soul;” the windows that reveal the depth and wisdom in another human being.
In many cultures, people are taught to avoid making deliberate eye contact with other people. Some cultures, like indigenous natives, believe that to look directly into another’s eyes is equivalent to stealing the soul. As a result of conditioning and beliefs, our eyes are constantly moving taking in our surroundings yet not focusing on another’s eyes for very long. This custom can be different at home, with those we love like our child.
Your child’s eyes reflect innocent, yet deep wisdom; their clarity and openness accentuating and highlighting their beauty. That sense of wonder you witness in your child also exists in you. Let the gaze between you be a reflection of your own innate strength and splendor.
TODAY stand in front of a mirror (or better yet, sit and hold a hand mirror) and make eye contact with yourself for one minute. Deliberately look into your own eyes. If your focus moves to noticing the bags under your eyes, the pimples on your face or that you need a haircut, redirect your focus back to your eyes. Your breath will help you stay connected to your own gaze. Keep breathing and looking.
Could it be you are the very one you’ve been looking for? I’d love to know what you see!
Many health professionals are now recommending wireless bras since more attention is being paid to the health hazards of having metal on your chest, day in and day out. The wire sits on what are called Neurolymphatic Reflex points. These points are right under both breasts and both energy and lymph fluid naturally move through these tissues but may get blocked due to continual exposure to the wire in your bra.
In a class with Donna Eden, author of Energy Medicine and Energy Medicine for Women, she educated us that both metal and plastic underwires have the same challenge. They clog energies which need to flow freely and can cause all kinds of health problems.
If all of your bras have underwires in them, it’s time to go shopping for new bras that do NOT have wires in them! More and more bras are becoming available that are wire-less and comfortable. Switching to wearing wireless bras is a strong step to take for optimal health!
Whether your bra has wires or not, do you need to wear a bra every single minute of the time you are home? That doesn’t mean going bra-less out in public, if you aren’t comfortable, but what if after dinner, you took this over-the-shoulder boulder-holder off and let your energy flow more freely in that area of your body?
Whenever you take any bra off, take 30-60 seconds and massage under your breasts. Put your fingers into a cluster and massage in small circles on the neurolymphatic reflex areas under each breast. Massage under each breast every time you take your bra off. If this area feels tender, don’t stop. The tenderness means that you will benefit from this simple nurturing massage.
~Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches. Alice Roosevelt Longsworth~
We all are born with one mouth and two ears; could that be that it serves us more to listen than to talk? Listening is not a passive activity; it is an active state of engagement. It is a loving way to share energy and pay attention to the spaces between the words. Active listening is seeking to understand rather than first needing to be understood. Deep listening is like a mirror’s reflection; I truly see you for who you are and what you need. I honor that reflection.
TODAY at least once, experiment with active listening. For example, your child asks you to read a story. Instead of explaining that first you need to cook dinner…stop! Hear that he wants you to read a book.
Get on your child’s level and make eye contact. Smile and feel your heart open. Lovingly, share your truth: “You want me to read to you right now.” Stay right there for a few beats before you add, “I am cooking dinner. Bring your book in the kitchen and look at it while I cook. As soon as dinner is over, I will read to you. Thanks for understanding.”